SELF-LOVE IS
GOOD LOVE.
THE ONLY LOVE THAT FILLS YOU UP.
Good Love is a master class in learning to love yourself. The 9 lessons, workbooks, and exercises included in this offering are designed to address all the ways you find yourself falling short of that Good Love.
Join Good Love and:
Commit to your self-love journey at your own pace
Learn how to hold the emotions that scare you
Feel supported in a process that can feel disheartening & confusing alone
Hi! I’m Michelle D’Avella. I’m an author and Breathwork facilitator.
I support people as they process blocks to claiming self-love.
I created Good Love to support you through the integral journey of self-love. The truth is that for most of us, self-love is long-term, moment-to-moment work. With lifetime access, Good Love gives you a structure to support you indefinitely as you walk that path.
WHY SELF-LOVE MATTERS
The growing rates of depression, anxiety, and suicide in our world are indicators that we are in a spiritual crisis. The imbalances in our emotional and physical fields are information too many perceive as inconveniences treated through symptom reduction, which often doesn’t work or creates other issues.
Healing is about getting to the root, and in doing so we’re brought back to the only thing we have control over: ourselves. When we lack love for ourselves, we need something else to fill us up whether it’s another person, money, accolades, or social media followers. The problem with fueling ourselves in this way is that it’s never enough.
WE’RE A SOCIETY ADDICTED TO EXTERNAL VALIDATION BECAUSE WE LACK TRUE LOVE FOR OURSELVES.
All of the problems we try to solve are impossible without self-love. We’re addicted to conflict, to relationships, to blame, and to making other people responsible for our feelings. Anything else so we don’t have to feel our own feelings, grapple with our own truths, and make peace with life.
When you access true love for yourself it changes the way you see yourself, the world, and those around you. Self-love is the foundation. From a place of deep love and reverence for self we can become free from the systems preying on our energy. We then have the ability to make choices that are aligned with our own unique essence instead of societal pressures.
When you truly love yourself everything about your life and the way you show up in the world changes. If it’s not, self-love is missing.
THAT’S WHY I CREATED GOOD LOVE
A SELF-STUDY PROGRAM WITH LIFETIME SUPPORT FOR YOUR SELF-LOVE JOURNEY.
Instead of joining me for self-love workshops once a year or booking several 1:1 sessions, I wanted to create something that offered all the wisdom I carry related to learning how to love yourself in one place. Because self-love is an ongoing process until mastered, you’ll gain lifetime access that will support you for as long as you need it.
With the support of Good Love, you no longer have to wonder if your experience is normal. You don’t have to expect yourself to integrate all of the information from a one-off workshop and have self-love mastered in two hours. Because the journey is cumulative, you can work with the lessons repeatedly and gain something new as you integrate deeper layers of healing.
“NO ONE CAN RESCUE ME FROM
MY PAIN. I KNOW BECAUSE I’VE TRIED TO GET THEM TO. IT DOESN’T WORK. THIS IS ALL ON ME.”
These are words I wrote during my Dark Night of The Soul in 2016, a time when I recognized that I’d been trying to fill my wounds with other people’s love. Not only did it not work, but it caused me more and more pain until I was forced to learn the most challenging lesson of my life: how to truly, fully love all of myself.
MY JOURNEY TO SELF-LOVE
I was close to 30, broke (like couldn’t-afford-to-put-gas-in-my-car broke), and in denial of my depression when a healer recommended I do some Breathwork instead of work with him. I expected him to resolve my physical pain in a single session, and I cried in the shower after reading his email. There was something about someone seeing in me what I had been unwilling to see in myself that left me feeling both relief and shame. For the first time in my adult life, I was seeing that I was not actually who I thought I was.
Breathwork was introduced to me during a time when you couldn’t find a class in a yoga studio and no one was talking about it on social media. I was told it could support me on a cellular level with my control and boundary issues, all of which were news to me. Though I had no real desire to embark on a healing journey, something in me guided me into a series of sessions. I didn’t know what was happening to me, but it felt like I was dethawing. People close to me began to remark that I felt warmer, happier even.
Without any intention of becoming a Breathwork facilitator (I was an entrepreneur, not a healer) I found myself at a training with my future mentor, David Elliott. Breathwork gave me access to my Soul, the part of myself I had once been deeply connected to as a kid but had shut off in order to find a sense of acceptance in the world. This reconnection enlivened me, guided me back to my creative expression and began to show me the Truth about myself.
I discovered that I actually hadn’t loved myself for a very long time and that I had created an identity based off the qualities I believed would get me love instead of allowing myself to be fully me. I also intentionally avoided looking at areas of my life that would take me to places I didn’t want to go. I wanted to heal, but only as much as was absolutely necessary. Not an ounce more. What I really wanted was to receive the facade of safety through love from other people and show up in the world as if I had it all figured out. That felt easier than confronting my greatest fears and not knowing what to do with them.
LOVING PARTS OF MYSELF WAS MUCH EASIER THAN LOVING ALL OF MYSELF. THAT WAS JUST TOO MUCH.
I was someone who chose to learn lessons the hard way. In 2016, I went through a blindsiding breakup, and when my partner left, the fears, grief, and despair I’d repressed throughout my entire life rose to the surface all at once. I no longer had the ability to pick and choose what I wanted to look at. I was forced to confront everything I’d been hiding from. It was overwhelming, relentless, exhausting—the most difficult experience of my life.
One of the many days of deep despair I was laying in bed, the sun shining brightly outside, and I suddenly realized no one was coming to save me. If I wanted my life to change, I’d have to make it happen. Soon, I’d come to realize that the pain wasn’t actually about my ex, but about me. I was grieving because I’d been abandoning myself for years. I was riddled with fears that were previously unconscious: that I couldn’t trust myself, that I was unlovable, that I’d be alone forever, and that I’d cause myself cancer (the latter might have been a premonition if I stayed on that track).
I had to bear witness to every single truth I had been hiding from. It’s much easier to convince yourself you’ve got it all figured out than to sit with the reality that you’re terrified of truly being seen and don’t even know who you are. But I did the hard work of self-love, repeatedly, until I mastered it.
My journey took me through the trenches of my inner world. I confronted every limiting belief that surfaced, traced it back to the root, and loved it until the truth emerged. Everything I learned was revealed to me through the grueling process of sitting with my own pain. I began to realize that each time I chose to see the truth and move the pain through my body, I was left with a residue of wisdom. This information gave me all I needed to know about myself, my journey, and my unique place here on the planet.
AS I LOVED MYSELF MY LIFE BECAME A BLESSING, ONE I DIDN’T EVEN CONSIDER ASKING FOR BECAUSE I DIDN’T BELIEVE I WAS WORTHY OF IT.
Self-love is an ongoing process because love is a well of depth that continues to grow. I never imagined I could feel the way I feel for myself, but life continues to give me opportunities to love myself more. Being single for 6 years since that blindsiding breakup was a master class in itself of learning to surrender to the life process, to claim the depth of my worth, and to fully inhabit my life.
For almost a decade I have been supporting people on their healing journey. I know where people struggle with self-love, not just because of those I work with, but because I’ve been there myself.
I know firsthand how much energy we waste on false ideas about ourselves, carrying guilt and shame around, and doubting our worth. I also know how much sweeter, magical, and juicy life is when love is flowing from within yourself. It liberates you from the toxic attachments most people are burdened by and frees you up to create the life you truly desire.
If you’re still with me, continue on to find out if Good Love is for you.
GOOD LOVE IS
GOOD FOR YOU IF:
You feel disconnected from yourself.
You’re disconnected from your body and stuck in your head.
You ruminate, find it difficult to think positively about yourself, or feel guilty often.
You’re carrying childhood pain you don’t know how to process.
You feel like there’s something wrong with you.
You’re afraid to do or say the wrong thing.
You abandon yourself.
You believe you’re unworthy of love (consciously or unconsciously).
You feel lost and are seeking purpose.
GOOD LOVE IS NOT
GOOD FOR YOU IF:
You want to find a quick and easy solution to self-love
You’re not willing to dedicate the time & energy to healing
You’re not ready to get honest with yourself
You’re not open to committing to a Breathwork practice
You need 1:1 support that you don’t have
HERE’S WHAT’S INSIDE
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VIDEO TEACHINGS & TRANSCRIPTS
9 video lessons on the major themes you’ll confront on your self-love journey. A transcript of each video is included as well as closed captioning.
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BREATHWORK MEDITATIONS
5 Breathwork meditations to support your heart in opening. If you’re new to Breathwork, you’ll also get an introductory video, aftercare instructions, and FAQs.
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WORKBOOKS FOR SELF-INQUIRY
9 workbooks to guide you into deeper self-inquiry. When we answer the right questions they can guide us to greater understanding and healing.
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EXERCISES FOR INNER GROWTH
9 exercises to give you an experiential lesson to support your growth. Exercises that give you a path to your own wisdom provide the most value for our healing.
THE COURSE CURRICULUM
Module One
THE MEANING & PURPOSE OF SELF-LOVE
10 min video lesson
Self-love has become a buzzy phrase over the past few years, conflated with bubble baths, yoga, and sage. In this lesson, you’ll learn what self-love actually is and why it’s the ultimate game-changer.
Module Two
A LESSON IN LISTENING
7 min video lesson
Listening is a foundational tool that needs to be cultivated to support you on your self-love journey. You can’t love yourself if you don’t listen to yourself. In this lesson, you’ll learn the importance of listening and how to expand your capacity to hear more truly.
Module Three
HOW TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF
12 min video lesson
Once you have an understanding of what self-love means and how foundational it is to experience what you truly want in your life, you’ll learn how to actually fall in love with yourself. Specifically, we’ll talk about self-acceptance, moving through resistance, and aligning to the truth of who you are.
Module Four
JOURNEY INTO
THE SHADOW
10 min video lesson
The shadow is a psychological term used to describe the aspects of yourself that are unconscious. As Carl Jung has said, “The shadow is the person we’d rather not be.” In this module, you’ll look at your shadow and learn how to integrate the parts of yourself you’ve judged, rejected, or abandoned.
Module Five
TENDING TO THE WOUNDED CHILD
10 min video lesson
Most of our core emotional pain is related to unmet needs and desires from our childhood. In this module, you’ll learn the core wounds most of us carry around love as well as how to heal your hurt inner child, and why this work is essential to fully loving yourself.
Module Six
LOVE YOURSELF THROUGH GUILT, SHAME, & SELF-BETRAYAL
13 min video lesson
There are many things that interrupt our connection to our own love. In this module, you’ll learn about how guilt, shame, and self-betrayal interfere with your relationship to yourself. You’ll be given examples of how the pattern of negative self-talk can be broken, the way punitive systems have been internalized, and the path to heal these heavy burdens.
Module Seven
FIND YOUR ANCHOR
9 min video lesson
This module is an important one in light of a growing population seeking purpose but feeling lost. Each of us has a soul mission, one or more things we came here to do and share. In this module, you’ll learn how self-love anchors you into your purpose, your body, and your life.
Module Eight
WHEN YOU SLIP UP
ON SELF-LOVIN’
8 min video lesson
In this module, you’ll learn how to handle the moments it feels like you fall short of loving yourself. You may second guess yourself or find you lack trust in your path or aren’t experiencing what you desire in life. This module will support you in the times it feels like you’ve regressed or you’ve hit a wall.
Module Nine
GET COMFORTABLE LIVING FROM YOUR HEART
9 min video lesson
Loving yourself is a huge accomplishment, but what happens when you show up in relationship to others? This is where you’ll find your hard work of self-love has paid off. It’s also the area that can be the most activating. In this module, you’ll learn how to stay in your heart when engaging with others without abandoning yourself.
JOIN GOOD LOVE
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WHAT’S INCLUDED
9 video teachings with closed captioning, transcript, & audio file
9 exercises to support your growth
9 workbooks for deepened inner inquiry
5 Breathwork meditations on self-love, self-acceptance, inner child healing, soul connection, and a 12-minute Breathwork meditation for busy days
Breathwork instructions, aftercare support, and FAQs
BONUS
Join before February 19th and receive:
One month free access to Divine Passage (with over 30 Breathwork meditations)
NINE WORKBOOKS FOR
INNER INQUIRY
Good Love includes nine workbooks (one per module) for deeper self-reflection. Answering the right questions supports the truth in arising from your subconscious. These workbooks are designed to support you in uncovering what your mind might not fully know yet in relationship to the themes in each module.
BREATHWORK MEDITATIONS
Breathwork for Self-Love
32 min
Breathwork for Self-Acceptance
33 min
Breathwork for Inner Child Healing
33 min
Breathwork for Soul Connection
26 min
Breathwork for Opening
12 min
THROUGH GOOD LOVE YOU GET
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GUIDANCE
Self-love seems like it should be easy, right? Well, consider the fact that you’re carrying layers of pain from childhood, intergenerational trauma, past life residue, and live within a societal infrastructure designed to keep you feeling insecure and in need. Doesn’t sound so easy anymore, does it? Good Love gives you a framework for understanding what self-love really is and how to access it yourself.
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TOOLS
We’re not working solely on the level of the intellect because self-love isn’t a concept of the mind. You may have worked with affirmations in the past to no avail. Well, in Good Love you’ll receive a multi-level approach. You’ll integrate a healing Breathwork practice into your life, work with exercises to deepen your commitment to loving yourself, and use workbooks for deeper self-inquiry and understerstanding.
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TRUTH
My guidance comes from an integrated place. I know what it means to master self-love and then seemingly regress, to feel like you will never quite get it, and to confront the most painful, shameful aspects of yourself. While I share my wisdom and lived experience in this program, I am guiding you to the wisdom inherent within yourself.
INSIDE GOOD LOVE
If you’re like me, seeing the inside of a program, how it looks, and the way the content is presented supports me in really knowing what I’m getting. Take a look at the video below to get an inside look at Good Love.
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BE SUPPORTED ON YOUR JOURNEY TO SELF-LOVE
Only you know when you’re ready to confront the aspects of yourself holding you back from truly loving all of who you are. Making the declaration to yourself is a personal choice. Remember, you get lifetime access to this offering so even if you can’t commit to delving into all of the content right now, you can work with it at your own pace.
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REFUND POLICY
A full refund is available up to 48 hours after your purchase. If you don’t feel like the course material meets your needs then email me at hello@pushingbeauty.com to get a full refund, no questions asked. Be sure to ground yourself and make a conscious choice about your purchase before committing.
WHAT IS BREATHWORK?
BREATHWORK IS A PROFOUND TOOL FOR HEALING, PARTICULARLY FOR DISCOVERING SELF-LOVE.
The breathing pattern we’re using in this work is a simple two-part breath that supports the mind in quieting enough to begin to feel what’s being held in the body.
I’ve been studying with my teacher, David Elliott, since 2013 and use Breathwork as my primary healing tool personally and in facilitation with clients. It is the fastest way I know to connect to the heart, develop intuition, access creativity, and see the truth. It is undoubtedly the way I learned what self-love is.
This practice can feel intense for those who are not used to being in their bodies, feeling their feelings, or processing their lived experiences. For this reason, I have included many resources to support you if you’re new to Breathwork, including a shorter Breathwork meditation if the longer sessions are too much for you in the beginning.
While we have all experienced trauma in our lives, if you know what might come up for you is too much for you to handle on your own, you should have a trained professional support you in integrating your experiences. This program is not a substitute for necessary mental health services.
Breathwork, like self-love, is a long-term practice. I do not recommend this program if you are unwilling to commit to a Breathwork practice. This is not solely intellectual work. In fact, most of this work is on the emotional and spiritual levels.
I discovered Breathwork at a time when my life was not what I expected it to be. I was flailing in my career. Money wasn't flowing. I was picking fights with my boyfriend. I was in a toxic living situation.
DEEP INSIDE I FELT THIS HORRIBLE FEELING THAT I WASN’T LIVING THE LIFE I WAS HERE TO LIVE.
Looking back, I can see a very clear path guiding me back to myself. I was led to begin a Breathwork practice in 2013 and since that day my life has never been the same. At the time I remember thinking, "How the hell is breathing going to change my life?"
AS A HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON, BREATHWORK IS A LIFE-SAVING TOOL IN SO MANY WAYS, BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY IN BRINGING ME BACK HOME TO MYSELF.
Oh, but it did. It dramatically did. This breathing technique is not about relaxation. It is about healing. It guided me to every single unprocessed experience in my life that needed my love and attention. All it needed was my willingness to show up.
I was not one of those people who did a Breathwork session and was cracked wide open. The layers of pain I was carrying guarded my heart, and the resistance to feeling safe in my body was real. For me, Breathwork was a difficult practice, but every time I committed to it I felt a little closer to where I knew I needed to go.
Without this profound healing tool, I am certain I would not be who I am now, experiencing life this way. I have grown in unimaginable ways. As a highly sensitive person, Breathwork is a life-saving tool in so many ways, but most importantly in bringing me back home to myself.
WHAT GOOD LOVE IS
AND IS NOT
This is a program on mastering self-love, and it addresses the common obstacles we encounter along the way. Included are exercises, journaling prompts for self-inquiry, and healing practices to support you on your inner journey.
This is not the path to every single issue you will have on your healing journey. It’s not a guidance system to heal all of your wounds. It doesn’t address everything you will possibly encounter on your healing journey.
Good Love provides the path and practice to support you in no longer filling yourself up from the outside but sourcing your love from within. It is a program to hold you as you do the work necessary to love all of who you are.
LOVE FOR GOOD LOVE
“I’ve worked with Michelle now for almost 3 years. She’s a wise, compassionate teacher. The combination of the breathwork meditations, video teachings and the reflection notebooks she offers with Good Love has been really effective in terms of resonating and unlocking the hold-out stuck places where I need more healing and self-love. The lessons in Good Love are really powerful tools for people committed to loving themselves fully.
Through my work with Michelle, I've unlearned unhelpful ways of thinking that have limited me. I've released years' worth of repressed emotions through breathwork and made space for more joy and light. I've also learned how to release challenging emotions from my body as they arise and I've learned to trust, love and honor myself.”
— Jessie K.
“Through participating in several of Michelle’s offerings, I found the theme of self-love to be of deep consideration. When GOOD LOVE was brought forward, I was definitely on board. Three main factors have contributed to my commitment to this program. One – the inquiries presented in each module have given me pause – and have allowed me to enter my heart to know what’s deeply present and desiring exposure. Two – the Breathwork Sessions – through the breath – the belly, the heart - tears and laughter, release is found. Three – Michelle herself – her confidence in Life itself is refreshing and truly believable. Love is present.”
— Jeanette M.
“Good Love was a wonderful way for me to start to feel embodied- that is not disconnected from my body or from myself. I had a lot of trauma to release and Michelle’s breathwork meditations were perfect for me to be with me- in all the messiness. Her videos and her workbooks were invitations to go deeper and see the truth of who I am. It’s been the most curious and most important journey I’ve ever been on. I believe, like she says, the relationship I have with myself is the most precious relationship of all. That is the TRUTH!”
— Antra B.
STILL HAVE QUESTIONS?
FAQS
DO YOU OFFER PAYMENT PLANS OR SCHOLARSHIPS?
I do provide two payment options for this program (SquareSpace only allows for two). For this particular offering, there are currently no scholarships. You can look into Divine Passage or my free Breathwork meditation on YouTube if you can’t currently afford this offering.
WHAT FORMAT IS THE COURSE DELIVERED IN?
There are 9 modules as outlined in the course curriculum above. Within each module is a video teaching with a corresponding audio file, a workbook in PDF format, and an exercise for deeper integration. There are also 5 guided Breathwork meditation MP3 files. All videos have closed captioning and transcripts.
WHAT IF I DON’T WANT TO START A BREATHWORK PRACTICE?
I don’t recommend joining if you don’t have a somatic practice that can support you in processing the very real energetic blocks to you loving yourself.
IS BREATHWORK SAFE?
Yes. This is a gentle breathing practice, though it may feel intense if you aren’t used to being in your body or feeling your feelings. It is a practice that can support you in feeling safe in your body over time. Contact your physician if you have questions about if Breathwork is safe for your particular health circumstances.
What IF I NEED 1:1 SUPPORT?
If you feel you’d like to engage with this material with 1:1 support from me, you can look into Good Love Supported.
HOW LONG DO I GET ACCESS TO GOOD LOVE?
You get lifetime access. Self-love is ongoing work. There is no timeline, so I want you to have access to the program to support you at different stages on your journey.
WHAT’S YOUR REFUND POLICY?
A full refund is available up to 48 hours after your purchase. If you don’t feel like the course material meets your needs you can email me at hello(@)pushingbeauty.com to get a full refund no questions asked. Be sure to ground yourself and make a conscious choice about your purchase before committing.
WHO DID YOU TRAIN WITH?
I’m a certified Breathwork facilitator through David Elliott who has been a teacher and mentor to me for over 8 years.
CAN I DOWNLOAD THE BREATHWORK MEDITATIONS?
No. The content is only accessible to you if you are logged into the Good Love website. You need to have wi-fi to engage with the content.
DO I NEED WI-FI TO ACCESS GOOD LOVE?
Yes. You will need to have internet access to work with the program content.
HOW LONG ARE THE VIDEO TEACHINGS?
Each video per module is a different length of time detailed in the course curriculum. On average the entire course is about 90 minutes of video content. These are deep lessons reduced down to short videos that can and should be engaged with repeatedly.
WHAT IS BREATHWORK?
Breathwork is a simple but powerfully transformative practice of releasing the mind and opening the heart. We’re using one breathing pattern in this program which is a two-part inhale through the mouth.
WHAT DO I DO IF I STILL HAVE QUESTIONS?
If you still have questions, just reach out! I’m happy to answer any additional questions you have if you email me at hello@pushingbeauty.com.
I’VE NEVER DONE BREATHWORK BEFORE. IS THAT OK?
Yup! No experience with any healing work is necessary. There is a Breathwork page with a lesson in breathing, aftercare support, and answers to common Breathwork questions for anyone new to this practice.
IS EMAIL SUPPORT INCLUDED IN MEMBERSHIP?
While I’m happy to answer questions as you move through your self-love journey via email, email support is not included in membership. This means that I can’t provide mentorship to you through email. If you need 1:1 support you’re welcome to schedule a session.
GOOD LOVE SUPPORTED
An offering for those who want 1:1 guidance.
Good Love Supported is an opportunity to work 1:1 with Michelle as you engage with the program curriculum. For those who work better with accountability and appreciate processing with another, Good Love Supported can provide a deeper entryway into your self-love journey.
Self-love is an inside job.
No one can do this work for you, but you. If you feel called to join Good Love, be prepared to put in the work required to deeply and truly transform your life. It’s not an easy journey, but it’s more than worth it.
Hope to see you on the inside!
JOIN GOOD LOVE
Join Good Love and gain immediate, lifetime access. Choose between a one payment or a monthly payment plan.